Struggling with Dating After Surgery - Need to Vent!

Great attitude.

I was still am exactly like you. Except with my husband, Jay. I used to get hurt as a child more because no one wanted to be my friend. There would be 2 reactions I always got. (1) Sympathy (2) Disgust. Nothing else. I thought I was destined to spend the rest of my life alone! But I was so wrong. I told Jay about both my bags just 2 days after meeting him. I'd invited him to watch DVDs at my flat and he started to move his hands to cuddle me, one hand reached my stomach and I knew he'd feel them. I went into the spare room where I kept all my clean bags and up to that very second I had no idea how I would break the news but then it hit me! I picked up one of my clean bags and hid it behind my back 'til I got in the room. I told him to brace himself, then I placed the bag in his hand and said "Do you know what that is?" He said, "Ah... One of them bags..?" I said, "Yes, I have to wear them." His immediate response was "So what!?!" I couldn't believe it. Then I said, "I don't just have 1, I have 2.." Once again he said, "Do what!!? If you want an honest, unprepared answer then my way of telling someone here you exactly that!!!!!! Trust me** Please contact me if you have questions. Thank you.

I was still am exactly like you. Except with my husband, Jay. I used to get hurt as a child more because no one wanted to be my friend. There would be 2 reactions I always got. (1) Sympathy (2) Disgust. Nothing else. I thought I was destined to spend the rest of my life alone! But I was so wrong. I told Jay about both my bags just 2 days after meeting him. I'd invited him to watch DVDs at my flat and he started to move his hands to cuddle me, one hand reached my stomach and I knew he'd feel them. I went into the spare room where I kept all my clean bags and up to that very second I had no idea how I would break the news but then it hit me! I picked up one of my clean bags and hid it behind my back 'til I got in the room. I told him to brace himself, then I placed the bag in his hand and said "Do you know what that is?" He said "Ah... One of them bags...?" I said "Yes, I have to wear them." His immediate response was "So what!?!" I couldn't believe it. Then I said "I don't just have 1, I have 2..." Once again he said "Do what!!? If you want an honest, unprepared answer then my way of telling someone here you exactly that!!!!!! Trust me** +44 7851796157* Please contact me if you have questions. Thank you. You are guaranteed to get their 100% honest reaction!!

GUEST, I've had an ostomy all my life, 30 years counting. But it's only since meeting my husband on 10th May 2010 that I've started to accept myself. My husband has taught me..!