Hello HarleyDoll. Thanks for your informative post about laxatives - I never knew that! It does sound like a logal alternative to use laxatives and I'm a firm believer in doing whatever is best for you. However, when you say " It's much easier to let the bag fill up and empty it than to irrigate I would think." it leads me to think that you haven't yet tried irrigation. I'm also a firm believer in giving things a try before making a judgement on something. I found that for me, irrigation was much easier than using a bag as well as being more convenient and less stressful during the day. I have tried laxatives in the past when needed prior to surgery but several of them made me violently ill so, since then I've not been too keen on that route. The worst one for me was senacot, which made me feel so ill that I felt I was dying, whereas I'm usually pretty good at pain management. The next time they let me starve for a couple of days and then irrigate, which caused no such problems.
I@m not sure about making friends with my stoma but I do think it has been useful to know as much as I can about it so that I can try different things for the different problems it throws up.
Best wishes
Bill