Hi Clara, I had the same procedure here in Australia around 2 years ago.
The surgeon wanted to remove my rectum.
Because of erectile function problems resulting from a previous radical prostatectomy and subsequent penile implant to rectify this, I did not want to risk any further nerve damage from the removal of my rectum.
Although I'm an older gentleman, I still enjoy an active sex life which is important to me.
So I convinced him to leave it there and to also be gentle when removing my colon, as the previous surgeon told me a lot of nerve damage occurs from the pulling and twisting during surgery.
I know we are anatomically different, but I would presume there are nerves surrounding your vaginal walls which may be damaged.
If you retain your rectum, the only downside is that it still produces some mucus which you simply pass when you go to the loo and is easily managed with no incontinence issues.
Regarding the stoma, here they make it about an inch or so long, with a slight downward angle so it empties into the bag more effectively.
You may end up with a hernia later. I tried to be really careful to avoid that but still ended up with one.
Once an ostomate, you will be up once or twice during the night to empty your bag, a fact of life I'm afraid.
As for the pouch you mentioned, I don't know anything about them and can't understand why you would need it if your colon is being removed. Maybe a revenue addition. There are some unscrupulous surgeons around, I'm afraid.
I wish you all the best; my ostomy has given me back my quality of life and indeed saved my life.
Cheers, Ian. πΉπΉ
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