Hi Northeyalan, I have what they call a "recessed" stoma - as in, mine doesn't protrude out nicely lol. Basically, what mine looks like is a red, dime-sized innie belly button if you can picture that. YES, I have problems with appliances, LOL! I've gotten the leak thing pretty much to the point it's a rarity, but it still sneaks up on me sometimes. At first, it was a nightmare!!! I didn't think I was ever going to get a handle on it, but with a lot of practice, patience, and working with a great stoma nurse, I finally did it.
I will suggest that you use a convex appliance and in combination with that, I use an Eakin seal snugged around my stoma. I put the convex appliance on top of that, snap the pouch on, and put my hand over it to apply heat and pressure for about 10 to 15 minutes. This seems to work like a charm. I've tried other seals, like the Brava ones, and got the WORST leaks from them, burned the top layer of my skin right off - so Eakin seems best. If you are having any leak issues with your retracted or recessed stoma, you might try that approach and see if it helps :-) Good luck!