Hi Michele, it sounds like you and I have something in common, and I hope I can put your mind at rest. I started out with a colostomy, due to a perforated bowel. I had suffered from chronic constipation for years, and the colostomy did nothing to remedy this. My large intestine just didn't work properly, and I ended up with multiple blockages and hospitalizations. It was awful. My surgeon recommended an ileostomy, and I went for it. It has worked out wonderfully for me, and I am grateful every day that I had that option. For me, the pros outweigh the cons in spades. Yes, I have to empty a little more often, but it's no big deal. I usually empty a couple of times during the night, but it's quick and I am back to sleep with no problem. If you don't want that, there are adjustments to your eating time that you can make, i.e., not eating after dinner. As far as output goes, everyone is different and, ileostomates do tend to have looser stool, but not always and certainly not in my case. If I didn't drink tons of water and other liquids throughout the day, my stool would be very hard and compact. I really need to consume a lot of liquid to make it looser, and I prefer it that way. It's way easier to empty loose output, than thick, hard stuff. Another pro is that my stoma is smaller (more dainty!) than my colostomy stoma, and lower profile, just because the ileum is a smaller organ than the large bowel. Some people with ileos have to avoid certain foods that can cause blockages, but they are usually those who have scarring from disease (Crohn's, Colitis) or multiple surgeries. Your profile doesn't indicate you have had any of those issues. I can eat anything, and only have to remember to keep well hydrated and chew my food well. Because of the caustic nature of the ileostomy output, skin problems can occur, and full disclosure, I've been having some irritated skin issues myself recently, but it's the first time I've had any problems since getting my ileostomy nearly two years ago, and it is getting better. There are always solutions. In most ways, having a colostomy or an ileostomy are pretty much the same. We both poop into pouches! I wouldn't even consider going back. Hope this helps.
Terry