Hi Meg,
I had my operation in Australia and was only in the hospital for 5 days, which included a day just waiting for my appliances to come before I could be discharged. I spent one day in ICU just to ensure I was OK and then into my room with a pump that I could press every 10 minutes to give me a shot of painkiller. In two days, I stopped using the machine as the pain was manageable with just Paracetamol. I was supposed to have a total of six weeks after the operation before I flew 4500 km home to the Philippines, but I could not afford the cost of accommodation so I went a week earlier.
I had no problems flying with two months' supply of my appliances as Qantas classified them as medical supplies and did not charge me excess luggage from Australia, as a Qantas agent in the Philippines did for my return to Australia for further cancer treatment 7 months later (but was later refunded).
I had no problems with the inspections at the airport when they patted me down and found my urostomy bag. I did need to go to the toilet several times during the flight and I was lucky to be near the toilet on the plane, but I used a night bag for my next flight which was much easier as I did not need to leave my seat all flight.
I had metal staples holding my cut closed and most were painless to remove about 4 weeks after the operation. Some were stuck to the skin and were a bit painful to have removed, but the worst for me was the removal of thousands of hairs along with the bandage over the wound. You should not have this problem.
Full recovery took about 3 months, but learning to do the right thing still has not happened. I will go to the toilet and empty my bag, shake the nozzle, then just put it back, only to find that I forgot to turn it off first and have warm urine running down my leg. I would play with my son and he would dislodge the bag (two-piece) a bit and urine would again flow. I opened my bag in the doctor's surgery only to see that my pants were keeping a lot of urine trapped in the top and urine flowed everywhere again.
As the Ileal conduit is a small part of your small bowel, it will regularly indicate a UTI every time you get a test and you can be taking antibiotics for no reason. Ensure you have other symptoms (smelly urine, kidney pain, etc.) before starting a course of antibiotics.
Make friends with your stoma nurse and ask many questions about anything and everything you want to know, including sex. They have a lot of experience and will help you with all these details.
Remember that you are having the operation because it is your only chance, and after you have had the op, keep remembering that as you will ask yourself "WHY" and "why me" many times when things happen. Just remember that you are much better off with your urostomy than dead.
I trust that everything will go well for you, but you do need to remember that even the simplest operation can have complications and the most complicated can go without a hitch. We are all different and will heal and experience pain differently.
Bob.