That's quite an interesting question, don't you think?
Many ostomates go about their everyday life as if it's great. They go to work every day and their co-workers have no clue about who this person really is. Once they get home, the mask is taken off.
Many are truly lonely and alone once they leave the work environment. They have no family or friends, but what they do have is a computer or similar device as an outlet.
We use these devices to speak up and speak out. We say things to and about others we wouldn't dare say face to face or person to person. So I ask you again, who's behind the screen?
Other instances exist where some, prior to their surgery, were happily married and are still with their spouses. Of course, you have those whose significant others are no longer with them for different reasons.
On this site, it's not just our fellow ostomates; even some of those visiting non-ostomates are simply lonely and looking for friendship, romance, and simply trying to find a sense of belonging.
Many of us practically live on the computer. I wonder why? Yet some claim to have such a wonderful life. Some have been ostomates for years or were born with a problem or problems that in turn left them in their current condition.
We hate what happened to our bodies after surgery. Meaning, sometimes the surgery leaves us unable to be intimate, or just the sight of our anatomy won't allow us to love or be loved.
This is not an easy thing to accept. I wonder, do we accept self-pity? Many of us move on in life and simply accept our fate. Some die and never again experience life behind the screen, while others have reversals and move
on with whatever life has to offer. Some find a site such as this one or another and start saying and doing things behind the screen. It's almost like lacking blood in dire need of a transfusion.
We seem to come back to the question, who's behind the screen?
Respectfully,
Angelicamarie
