If I'm not mistaken, the powder is supposed to go on first and then the spray... The spray acts as a barrier and keeps the powder residue to skin contact. It sounds like you are doing it wrong, maybe? 😔.
Whereas the spray also allows the wafer or the O-ring to stay stuck to your stomach...
So I could be wrong. I used to use that stuff. I no longer use that stuff.
I just go with the O-ring and the mounting plate.
I have a two-piece system, so when I had my surgery recently, I found out that I was leaking almost every day, maybe every 12 hours?? 💩 and it's because your stomach needs time to adjust. The little creases cause gaps and leaks, like speed bumps you drive over?
So I believe your boyfriend is correct in his assumption that it's not unusual every two or three days to blow a bag so early after surgery, so keep that in mind. Since you're new and the surgery is new, your body needs time to adjust. Get flat again.
My surgeon mentioned this when I asked, "WTF did you do??" (I had recent Ken butt surgery this October). He said that he had to move the stoma itself, so it might take some time to realign itself and the belly to flatten.
A lot of things need to be learned about this, and you're just starting out at Ground Zero, which is good... with us.
If you have any questions, just ask and sit tight. People will be chiming in left and right.