Ahoy, ostomateys! (Has anyone made that joke before?)
Oh boy, my first post! Hi all! My ileostomy, Charlie, was born on January 5 and is doing very well! He rapidly shrank once I got home but seems to be settling at 1 inch. He's very active and my output is very thick. I've been dealing with a lot of discomfort and paranoia about leaks due to constant pancaking. Currently, from the suggestion of the visiting nurse and confirmation from my doctor's NP, I'm wearing a convex Hollister. I tried the convex ConvaTec with the nifty built-in barrier ring but I leaked like crazy. I don't love barrier rings because my stoma likes to wiggle around, retract, and pop out a lot, and I feel like the barrier rings don't help him stay in place--I've found them to be absorbent of the leakage, which makes me feel they're less secure. Moreover, it's really bad at night because he's very active then, and so I wake up with a full bag and a heavy pile covering the skin barrier. I've kept my current appliance on since my last nurse visit on Monday and she's coming again tomorrow (though I can and have changed independently--I just feel more luck when she supervises me!), which has been a bit uncomfortable due to the sensation of leaking (though no sign under the skin barrier) and the skin barrier basically eroding around the stoma. I've tried wearing and not wearing my OstomySecrets support wrap, keeping air in the bag (which I don't like due to how visible it gets >.< still working on that), and it's pretty much the same result.
I'm sure a lot of the gathering around the skin barrier will be eased when I get my hands on lubricant, but I'm wondering if there's any wisdom, particularly amongst lady-folk or those whose stomas are rather close to the navel. I don't know why they put me in the convex, but I suppose the flesh is a bit uneven because there's kind of a dip below the stoma, whereas above there's more fullness--it's not flushed or retracted, but I guess it's uneven. Please feel free to ask follow-up questions if you need more details to help. TIA! <3
I do not have a flat stomach (but after being constipated for 3 years, decommissioning--not removing--my colon set me from ~145 lbs to 130!)