Christian, it's 3:30 a.m. here across the pond. It bothered me how I replied to you.
I am not like that, being so mean, and your reply, so heartfelt, means "you got my point" albeit harshly.
Bygones.
Now, if I could have a word with your doctor? It would be two choice words only. But essentially, he's an idiot. Is he experienced enough to tell you to resume normal working or daily habits? Or has he mad cow disease?
His idea of normal is not our new normal, so you may have interpreted his "return to daily activities" incorrectly.
You have a hole through your stomach wall. What can be normal about that? It is not going to get better as you do your things.
I do get the whole idea of being busy-minded and nothing-can-stop-me attitude or just being very active as you have your youth. Lucky you!
But it does not include break dancing. Nor lifting. People with heavy lifting jobs have retired because of a 40 lbs lift restriction—or less. This is your new normal. Factual too.
You are a newbie. You ask first before doing things that give you pause and will eventually hurt you. Please remember that.
You don't want to hear about failed hernia repair. Some of us won't have ours done due to the fact it's a never-ending repair. Only an experienced doctor or stoma nurse would tell you that.
Or us. You can talk to those who've had it done, had it failed, had multiple surgeries to fix it—in short, regretted it.
Re: your stoma? It normally exercises itself. Did you read a story on here where the member has a 3 to 6 inches prolapse stoma?
?? DAMN... throw a saddle on that sucka.
I don't think what you are experiencing is abnormal. Just the opposite. It will grow and retract. Just keep an eye on it.
Mine grows to a golf ball size. Mushrooms.
And retracts as small as a small grape.
Your output is affected by what you eat. Your stoma is an exit.
Nighttime, laying down, has some adverse effects. This will ease as your dinner time changes to maybe an earlier time instead of later.
Bananas and marshmallows before bedtime might help.
I used to have nocturnal empties 2 to 4 times. This 3:30 a.m. wake-up trip is my new normal for months. It took me a few years to curb eating late.
Achieving all of this new normal takes time. Be patient. Don't overdo it out of the starting gate.
Ask. We are here.
You got this... with our help. We get it.
Keep us posted. Thanks for being a nice guy. Thought you were gonna bite my head off. 🙋♂️