First Job Interview with my new Stoma

Just wanted to share my recent experience. I find myself looking for employment for the first time in twenty years, and I now have a new consideration... Stoma noises in a quiet office. 

After a series of 4 virtual interviews (during which, my stoma was not completely quiet) the company flew me out for an on-site interview, as I'm a top contender for the position. I'm coming on week 7 of having my colostomy, so I couldn't help but worry... The questions started rolling through my mind: Will I find myself making unfortunate noises in otherwise quiet moments? Should I tell them about it first, just in case? Will there be smells noticed by others? What should I do to prepare? Needless to say, the night before my interview didn't involve near as much actual sleeping as I'd hoped for.

The day before the interview, I carefully avoided food that commonly causes gas, ate moderately, and hydrated heavily. The morning of the interview, I ate very light and kept my coffee intake to a minimum. I arrived at the site, introduced myself at the front desk, and was met by the HR Director. She took me to a small conference room and told me that three individual interviews would happen over the next two hours.

For two hours I answered questions and asked questions. During that entire time, my stoma was quiet... Not a peep. I was so thankful. I was on day two with my bag, and I only noticed the slightest odor a couple of times, almost unnoticeable. But I still wondered if I was the only one noticing.

All in all, it was a great experience for me. I've now been in a very precarious position, professionally speaking, and my stoma cooperated the whole time. I hope to hear soon that they selected me, but either way, I've got my first stoma-related stressed out situation behind me. If I have to keep up my search and interview elsewhere, I think I'll be able to sleep well the night before. 😉

Rodr.........that's awesome!  Glad to hear it worked out well........and good luck!

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Hi Rodr

Congratulations and good luck for your efforts. There should be no smell from your appliance, if there is then you've got a leak. I do notice a lot of newcomers think they can smell something including myself at the beginning , but it's just the imagination. That's one issue you can rid yourself of.

What is strange abt that smell is that it seems only we can smell it on us. Recently, had that whiff on me and as a 6 yr ileo, I know abt leaks and seeps and upon inspection of the bag area, nothing was found to be leaking. 

I'm feeling either the filter ( which we all know is useless) let's out a odor ..or the bag itself is somewhat porus.

Drives me nuts , that stink. I don't thing mine has a leak tho.. those extended c strips I use seal it up pretty good.

Damn that odor tho.

Good Friends tell  me  there is no odor.  It's just me thinking it..

 

Hey Rodr24,   That's great. Best of luck.

No fear.  

 

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Yes the filters oh they are horrible.. I go filterless . I leaked through the filter so I went to no filter. Telling you they need someone with an ostomy on the inside. Speaking of I just order a sample of a new bag that came out hahahah oh this filter is horrible I don't even try it because they have  put cuts on  the top of the bag to make lie vents next to the filter.. uumm bad move people can we say leakage!!

Good luck, Rod, hope you get the position. As for your smells, ditto to what others said: you would technically be the least smelly person in the office and are likely getting phantom smells (but a leak is also possible so be careful.) As for stoma sounds, I usually press my hand or fingers lightly against mine if I sense some noisy gas and I've gotten better at predicting that over the years.

Rodr24 - KUDOS to you…onward and upward!  Good luck in your job search.

Regarding filters…I’ve said this before….I cannot imagine there is a filter in the world that can eliminate oder and filter stickers to cover them🤔 is this an oxymoron?    Also, a tad of air in a bag helps the gravitational pull thus eliminating  pancaking…for those who may be “over-gaseous” a quick trip to a stall may be required….easy for me to say as I am pretty much gasless prolly cause I am an ileo’ .  Seems the ole’ colon is the gas factory and because mine is still intact occasionally I will pass a little “fartsie”  - in the old days this would not have been funny…today it makes me giggle!  jb

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G-Day Rodr,  Now you have got this one over your on your way. When you get the job, and you will, Let the office know about your Stoma and you would be surprised how they will want to know all about it and let them have a look at the bag if they want. Now Ice broken so get on with life. Regards IGGIE

Congrats, Rod, for being so brave! I can just imagine the many worrying thoughts running through your head ... but you aced it! Way to go!

Plus, even in the unlikely chance that you didn't get the position, your next job interviews will be a piece of cake!

Thanks for sharing your experience - a lot of very good tips for your fellow ostomates.

M

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That's great to hear! I also am consistently worried about noises and I've had my illeostomy for 19 years.  Generally if I feel like noises might be coming on, I'll casually put my hands over my "lap" conveniently placing them on top of the ostomy.   Glad it stayed quiet for you.  Typically on a mostly empty stomach it's any air intake that causes noises, so chewing gum, using a straw to drink, that kind of thing.   

That being said, there's no reason to hide it.  If you feel comfortable enough, just say something like "hey everyone, just a heads up, I have an ostomy so every once in a while you might hear a noise or two from my area".  I generally make a joke out of it, but again, this is only if you're feeling comfortable enough. 

As for the smell, I'm with the consensus on the filters.  I use one but I'm pretty sure they allow a small smell to sneak out here and there.  They're essentially worthless the moment the get wet from any type of output and how they haven't figured out an improvement on this is beyond me.  

Good luck with everything!  

Way to go Rod, and I hope you get the job!  As others have said, the smell is in your mind.  As long as you have a properly applied and secure appliance, there should be no smells escaping.

Terry

Hey JB,   I find it interesting that you don't have much gas, as I also have an ileo and mine is a gas factory!  I don't have my colon anymore and when I did, I never experienced much gas, or at least any that I did have came out without much fanfare and never caused me discomfort.  The opposite is true now.  I have lots of gas and it's very noisy, and I often will get pain when it's trapped in there and having trouble making its way out.   My theory has been that the gas has little room to expand in my ileum, so causes the pain, whereas when I had a colon it had much more room, so wasn't painful.  I don't really understand how it works, but it seems odd as my diet now is exactly the same as pre-ostomy.  Do you stay away from gas causing foods? I do eat lots of stuff that causes gas, so I know I bring it on myself.

Terry

This is very interesting…when my life was normal (no ostomy) I frequently suffered with trapped gas in my intestinal area - today with my ileo I am amazed that I never seem to have that trapped painful gas in any part of my body- well except, my husband my comment I am full of hot air!  Fortunately, it is only painful to him..🤣🤣🤣. My diet is pretty much the same as my whole life diet.  Milk (which I love) and still drink will  puff up my bag a bit not not where it is problematic.  I rarely eat lettuce or corn anymore - the only real change in my diet.  Oh ya, and my daily “happy hour”  with Captain Morgan and Diet Coke…mostly in consideration of my liver and kidneys.  But I still imbibe from time to time.  jb

Worried about noise….why, you can’t control it. If it happens just say why it did. Changing your whole lifestyle for a few hours is just letting the ostomy win. What happens when you go back to your normal routine and it starts blabbering in front of your new co workers? You’ll explain it and you changed your lifestyle for no reason now. 
If there is smell coming from your appliance and you’re not in the process of emptying, you have 2 reasons for the smell. 1) you have a leak, might be minor but your setup is breached somewhere/somehow. Or, 2) you didn’t clean the end of your bag good enough when you last emptied. 

Gas-X can work to reduce the noises.

Is that a fact? Gas x will reduce noise? You use it often? 

And of course everyone is different, I use a bag with a filter and it's great, I also have no gas whatsoever, go figure ..

It's been said the filters are useless and some have reported they leak. That sucks. U can always finger the area to smell leakage. I know that disgusting, but if u get a whiff of an odor, u gotta sniff around.. 

I would prefer a vent cap. Instead of anything else, that vent is a good idea. Not only for purging but  using it to add water to the think output in bag, surely moves things along.

I have been using water at the tail end..filling bag up a bit. Close. Swish it around. And whoa ! E z out put.  Water...no oils.. no lubricant. Water. 

I have been using a mix of the Brava product and olive oil, keeps the bags clean and makes for an easy emptying process. I'll hafta give the water method a shot and see how that works for me. Thanks for the idea. 

Hope it helps. Plenty of free water..only thing I put in the bag is that M 9.  which is a proven odor killer for me.

Good luck man. Experiment. What ever works, just pass it along.