WE JUST CELEBRATED our 56th anniversary. I never expected to live this long, let alone reach a milestone such as this. We met in 1966, married two years later (the day they buried RFK). I haven’t much memory of what life was like living by myself (just like I have hardly any memory of life before ileostomy in ’64). One of our adult daughters wondered the other day how we have lasted together this long when we have such different interests. “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together,” wrote Dave Meurer. “It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” We have gone with the flow, as it were. My wife says you need two things for a good marriage: a sense of humor, and a short memory (I won’t touch whatever this says about me). We just went off to the coast for one night. She needed to bring her laptop so that she had something to do after I fell asleep early.
I discovered this list.
Helpful marital phrases:
“Thank you.”
“Help me understand this.”
“I can forgive you. Can you forgive me?”
“I am committed to you.”
“I like you.”
I have been married for a score and 16 years, a full score less than you. Congrats Henry.
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Happy anniversary! I just turned 52 and have been with my husband 36 years, married 31. Your wife’s theory is right 😊
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Congrats Henry. Here's your reason, buddy...
Does anyone see "i age" in the word
Marriage? 🤦♂️
No wonder, huh!
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