I've had an ileostomy for 45 years. I have been through many situations and here are a few things that have helped me along the journey.
If someone asks or thinks you have a disability, tell them you have an ability. You can do everything anyone else can and sometimes even better. Don't hide the fact that you have an ostomy. I had emergency surgery when I was just 20 years old. My doctor told me that I almost died and was amazed that I survived and progressed fast in my recovery. There were doctors observing me and writing lengthy journals. When my friends and family came to visit me in the hospital, I told them all about my surgery and showed them my new pouch and scars. They were not freaked out and they did not abandon me. Keep a positive attitude no matter what your condition is. Talk to people. Tell them your story. The worst that could happen is that they walk away. If they walk away, they aren't worthy of you anyway. Try again.
I have had many relationships and I have been married 3 times. The first for 19 years, the other two 5 years each. All of them were when I had an ostomy. I divorced them all for different reasons. I left my exes in Texas.
Find a social event you can participate in. It could be a gathering, a sport, a class, or at work. Travel with confidence.
Keep hydrated. Try foods in small quantities. Chew, chew, chew. I can't stress how important this is to keep yourself out of the hospital.
Keep smiling. You are as beautiful as you feel. Don't hide it from others.
God bless you all!
