Hi i just thin mine out by pressing to make it lie flatter,i did have probs like you but by doing this helped it not to melt so fast and not cause the opening to get smaller.. I use a thinner version but still need to press it and mould it around the stoma, i found the seal mould was too thick.. I hope this is some help, i tried it and it worked..Other than that try uesing a different brand,send for some samples,i ues a thinner version,maybe you should try a thin one .. Good luck tc ambies...