Please, before I start, I really hope I do not offend anyone; this is not my intention. I just need to get some things off my mind. In the last 2 years, I had cancer removed from my bladder three times, had my sack split open twice to have cysts removed, and got my stoma. The last
2 months, my friend Bill has been on my mind. I have known him for over 35 years; he is 6 months older than me. We spent many nights in the wet, cold, and dark, working to get a machine ready to work the next morning. He was tough as nails. My friend, in the past 2 years, was fighting a brain cancer tumor. At one time, they had it under control, but it came back with a vengeance, and he was too weak to fight anymore, and medicine was not helping or working. He spent his last month in the hospital on morphine until he passed away. I miss my friend. I got my stoma because I had UC, and what UC did not damage, cancer did; my colon is completely gone except for the anus stump. When I feel sorry for myself, I think of my friend. I really have no reason to feel sorry; I am alive. So, I poop in a bag; that is better than in my pants. My stoma saved my life and has given me a chance to have a fairly normal life.
Thanks, Ed
Thanks for sharing your feelings. I can certainly identify with your vent at this time. It is so difficult coping emotionally with the loss of those who have been close to us. Even many years after the event I still get emotional at times when I ponder on friendships that are now just memories. However, at least we are here and can recall these times we had with our friends.
The concept of it being better to poo in a bag rather than in your pants is a thing that I can identify with as it is what I also tell myself when I'm in a melancholy mood.
Best wishes. Bill
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Hi Foxbody, kvetch away. Lord knows there is always something to bitch about.
Sorry about the loss of your friend. Seems to be a lot of that happening. I lost a long-time friend myself on July 25th. May they go with the angels.
Happy World Ostomy Month.
Be well.
Cglasshag
Hi Foxbody, kvetch away. Lord knows there is always something to bitch about.
Sorry about the loss of your friend. Seems to be a lot of that happening. I lost a longtime friend myself on July 25th. May they go with the angels.
Happy World Ostomy Month.
Be well.
Cglasshag
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