Hi everybody! I hope that you guys don't mind if I vent a little. I have been trying to find a way to cope and release frustration. Recently, I blogged about meeting new people and exploring what life has to offer. The reason for this is because I recently separated from my wife of 24 years. We have been having problems for many years now and I thought that it would be best to split. I guess that all the surgeries and complications that I went through took a toll on her. Actually, on both of us. To be honest, it led her to stray! I know that I can be difficult at times and not easy to live with, but I couldn't take the humiliation anymore! I tried to make it work, but the more I tried, the more she tormented me. The longer I ignored the cheating, the worse it got and it was thrown in my face. After a while, I became calloused to it all. Please don't get me wrong, it hurt, it hurt bad! I couldn't understand how she could do this to me, especially when I have been through so much. One thing that I will say though, I have never cheated despite her actions!! I believe in loyalty, devotion. I wasn't going to play the same game, I am too old for that. Now that we are apart, I feel free and my stress level is gone finally. My anger has left and I feel good about leaving. We have gotten along better this past 2 weeks apart than we have in years! Funny, huh? I think the main reason for spilling my guts to strangers is that we, as ostomates, don't have to tolerate our spouses cheating just because we are different. I know that I am not the only one that has experienced this. Everyone has their own story to tell. We can't be responsible for what others do or act. The moral of this story is that if you feel disrespected and you have been cheated on, you need to stand up for yourselves and leave the person that you are with, no matter how much you care about them. Do what's right for you. Thanks for listening, I needed to vent. I hope to find happiness in the near future. LOL, Chris
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