Seeking Advice on Revisiting the Swinging Lifestyle with an Ostomy

Hi again folks

Well, I seem to be having some real relationship majors. Firstly I thank you all for your feedback on my last question. Life has been looking a lot better with an investment in some sexy underwear which hides the dreaded ostomy pouch. Now, I face another problem. Some 20-25 years ago as a couple we dabbled in the swinging lifestyle. This weekend one of those couples is coming to stay with us. My partner has suggested that I pick up some adult movies and we see what eventuates!! My ostomy has happened since those old days and the thought to me now is no way. Am I seeing this the correct way?? I look forward to your responses.

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Hi janee, sit down with them and explain about your ostomy and see what they think. You might be suprised.

I agree.  I wouldn't say "no" to something that you used to enjoy just because you have an ostomy now.  If you are comfortable with your body, your partner most likely will be too.  Good Luck!

Hi Janee, I think you should let them come over and after a few drinks and a chat..Maybe the conversation will come up about whats been going on in your life since you all last seen each other???   That leaves it open for you to be open and honest with them..All you can do is be honest,let them know your nervous and you need their understanding not their sympathy...and well, everything else is working...so I'd be sorting a cute out-fit out for the evening.....

   Also, dont take it hard if they shy away at first...remember that ignorance breeds detachment.(or something like that...lmao).The more they know it wont interfere with whats in store-the more you have a chance of it going extremely well...I think you will be fine...and I say go for it...Whats life for ?  if not for living and doing what you enjoy...Good luck...and enjoy!!!!.Tara

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