Adjusting to getting out there with a bag isn't easy! I bring supplies and a change of clothes with me when I'm out. If it's in the car I feel protected in a way. Also difficult is learning how to empty a bag! Depends on the bag itself too, they all come with a different method. I saw someone mention this but I swear by it. Leaving thicker toilet paper, an empty bottle to fill with water, and a small container of my Hollister m9 odor eliminator drops mixed with their adapt lubricant. I first add water to the output and move it around esp around the stoma. Sometimes I need two rinses. Thin toilet paper, one ply, is a nightmare and always gets stuck in my bag! So having some that I can depend on not fighting with is a relief. The m9 drops are amazing and help eliminate most odor so when you empty you don't feel everyone knows.
I've found it awesome to not need to even sit down to empty. So much faster and easier this way than using my evil conventional bum!!!
We all have different methods. So taking that to slow your output, esp if suggested, isn't bad. I watch what I'm eating if I am going out and try to make sure it's something that will be thickening. Also when eating I take breaks (that I don't want to!!) so the output isn't crazy while I'm trying to sleep. I personally use a prescription med for cramping when needed called Bentyl and that does slow the output just enough. I have to say I'm only a couple years into this bag life and it's becoming easier to put myself out there. If there's a bulging bag? I simply hold my purse over the area and go empty it.
Give yourself time and know that you're going to find your perfect formula. I'm STILL figuring out what time to eat dinner so I'm not awake all night emptying. It's a work in progress. Having one another to speak to means so much!