Hi everyone,
I'm 36, I have a genetic anomaly that sort of mimics an IBD, and after everything failed to treat the condition or give me a decent quality of life, I had a colostomy on April 30th.
My surgeon opted for a flush stoma (to minimize the risk of parastomal hernia); this part we had not discussed in advance. I know that approximately 30% of colostomy patients can develop a hernia; but I also know that 35% of stomas that do not protrude at least 1cm 48 hours after surgery give huge problems with 'management'.
My disease is of course still present, but it is much more manageable with a bag. My stoma is pretty active the first hours of the morning and demands my full attention for a bit, but the rest of the day I can finally have a life, go to places, be out of the house.
The only problem is: I can't get a tight seal. Wafer and paste: some output seeps under it; the wafer stays on for 48 hours, no leaks, but it isn't a tight seal. I tried paste (where the stitches left a bit of scar that is concave) and a moldable ring: a bit better, but for the most part not good for more than 48 hours.
Essentially, the stoma is flush, the output is not solid, and even if I change the wafer in the afternoon so the new wafer won't likely deal with any output for hours, even just a bit of mucus pools at the edge.
I'm using a convex wafer from the start, the adhesive itself holds well, the problem is that with the little dip where the stitches were, and with where the stoma "aims", everything gets eroded fast in that angle (the inferior part). If I use paste and/or rings, on one hand, it helps, on the other hand, it adds 'height' to the wafer, so my stoma can't stick out, it's below level despite the convex wafer.
I've discussed a revision with my surgeon. He's open to doing it, but he sounds uncertain if this would help...
I'm unsure too: in the morning, except for a bit of solid output, the rest is very soft, and my stoma gets surrounded and essentially fills the wafer area - so I push it down a bit, I empty the bag, take off the bag and clean it all (so it doesn't pancake), put the bag back on. Since it's our rhythm that's just how the first 2-3 hours in the mornings go.
On one hand, I think that a protruding stoma would not "push" on that one spot below it. Even with no output, any paste or ring there gets eroded shortly - so even if nothing seeps between wafer and skin, too much skin gets exposed shortly after the wafer change. A protruding stoma would have a better chance, right? And it would be at least easier, statistically, to get a tight seal, by "surrounding" it with either paste or a ring, right?
On the other hand, I'm wondering if my output would always give troubles. And in that case, I'd be going through a repeat surgery and recovery, to be in the same boat after... Plus more risk of parastomal hernia.
My ostomy nurse isn't super helpful: the most she said on this was "theoretically yes, protruding ones are usually easier to seal".
My surgeon is willing to operate and make it protruding, but he doesn't sound sure of the result... Should I simply ask another surgeon for a consult? Maybe a more experienced one would have a stronger opinion on this, and give me a better idea of what we can achieve with the revision?
Just to add: the best disease management we've had is one Imodium every morning. That limits the output, and slows down my transit just enough to absorb nutrients decently. I'm not sure I can add other meds to "control" the consistency of my output; but maybe more than that, since my gut is sensitive and not healthy, I want to know that my stoma and the devices we use have a decent seal even in the "usual" circumstances, which includes a soft output.
Consistency is not ideal, but we're still talking about output that essentially only happens in the space of 2-3 hours. With me cleaning several times, with no bag weighing down because I'm only taking care of my bag in those hours so I'm either sitting down or supporting it on the way to the bathroom to empty it, I don't think the circumstances are overall too much for a wafer.
Am I correct in seeing the main issue in the flush stoma? On the lower part, right side, at times it looks more retracted than flush, so it just shoots that way.
I need some advice. Is the revision the right step forward?
Should I look for a more experienced surgeon than this one? (Also, in that case how does one find those specifically?)
Sorry for rambling and not putting my thoughts in a better order, I'm just so unsure and feeling quite anxious right now. Thanks for reading, and for any advice you can have.