Hi all! I haven't been on the site for quite a while and when I was, I stayed pretty quiet. Right now though, I feel the need to reach out to people who just might have a clue about what I am feeling. I am very lonely these days. I had problems in the relationship area anyway before getting my bag, but now I feel even more insecure (if that's possible). I have really only dated one guy since my surgery and he was actually very supportive through all of it, even though he barely knew me at the time. Well, my surgery was two years ago. And now he has called it off. I don't think it had anything to do with the bag though. He didn't live very close, so we really didn't see each other very much. And while I do miss talking with him, I can't really say we had a serious relationship. And right now, I don't feel like I ever will. I am 46 and never married. I am tired of coming home to an empty, lonely house every day. I hate this bag. Yes, it saved my life and in that respect, I am grateful for it, but still occasionally I just feel like I need to say "I hate it". I love the holidays but am tired of not having someone to enjoy them with.
I promise I am not ALWAYS this negative. Just feeling down right now. Thanks for listening.
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