Okay going by the photo it doesn't look like you have a very flat type area around the stoma, in fact it looks like it's on a bulge. I don't know if this is because of the way you took the picture or perhaps could be a hernia nearby. A hernia will need a belt to push it down so you have a flatter area to attach the wafer to your skin. If it's just flub, you may need to use a stoma belt to provide some downward pressure to flatten the area using the wafer. It hooks to the wafer.
2: Do not use anything that will leave a residue, oil or whatever on the skin. It will cause the adhesive to detach. You can use a lite amount of soap.
3: Better than soap would be a little antibacterial liquid soap as this will kill the infection causing your skin to weep. It may sting a little and feel tight, but it's a lot better than using alcohol or iodine, that's pretty painful.
4: Don't use stoma powder or skin protectant for now crusting doesn't seem to work and always comes off causing leaks. Next use no-sting paste. Not regular cheap alcohol based paste as that will hurt. Paste is good to fill in cracks and provide filler, but the more you use, the more you need to give it time to set up laying on your back or gravity does you in.
5: Use a blow dryer to ensure your skin is very dry around the stoma. If spew gets into the skin, you need to head to the shower etc. and wash it again as it contains oils and makes bonding bad.
6: Dry the skin thoroughly that when you do a dry finger drag test, it feels dry and even perhaps a little chapped and rough to the touch. Not slippery or damp.
7: Make sure you cut your wafer hole to be just a hair slightly larger than your stoma (oval if oval) as it needs to come in and out into the wafer. Test fit it and make marks (I use a dab of paste) on the edges of the wafer flange and your skin for reference marks.
8: Now doing this laying down so you can get some rest and allow the paste to harden. Use the end of the paste tube to put a thick ring size height (about a 1/4" thick or so) ring of paste around the stoma next to it. You do this holding the tube just 1/4" above the skin surface. If the paste does not stick to the skin, you need to remove the paste and start over until it does stick. Wet paste will not stick and later leak so don't bother.
9: Once you have one paste ring around the stoma. Go around the outside of that one with another at the same height. Now you can put more paste to fill in uneven areas but keep it to the second paste ring area on top of that second ring because it's going to squish and you don't want to cover the stoma.
10: Line up your wafer and apply with gentle pressure. Check that the paste doesn't cover the stoma, just ooze s tiny bit around the edges. At least with a two piece you can wipe excessive paste off before applying the bag portion. I use a one piece so I have to be more careful.
11: Press and hold to get the wafer flange adhesive to bind to the skin all around. Apply extra large barrier strips all around and ensure they meet at the bottom..extra cut piece at the top if needed. Don't cover the hook attachments. Blow dry the barrier strips to heat activate and be smooth.
12: Now lay on your back flat and give that paste hours to set up. Why now I do a bag change at night before bedtime and sleep only on my back using pillows under each arm to keep me there. Later on you elevate the upper part of your body in bed as to keep output from pooling around the stoma as it goes in and out and liquid causing a leak.
13: Diet and portion control is important. Some food cause runaway dirrarea and makes putting a bag on difficult. Also filling the bag up at night causing a lot of bathroom trips. To avoid this eat between am and 2 pm. Then only small snacks afterwards.
14: If the leak burns hurt a lot, it could be on account of coffee. Seems to cause the stomach to flush, thus acid in your bag and much more severe leak burns. Try tea instead. Many of my problems disappeared when I stopped drinking coffee.
15: You can wash a bag while on the toilet using a couple of drops of antibacterial dish soap and a water bottle. Then followed by a rinse where you lay down on your back to get it up around the top to wash. Then a final rinse. The residue soap usually does a good job of reducing future smell.
Read this list of foods for an Ileostomy
[b]Signs of a clogged stoma.
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No output or only watery output under pressure for a few hours after eating. Could be caused by a covered stoma by improper application of an appliance, typically hole is cut too small or too much paste. Also could be caused by eating hard food. Seek treatment by an emergency room, remove appliance if necessary and wait. If clogged a severe pain will eventually appear which hopefully will clear itself. If not a trip to surgery would be necessary. Unfortunately very high and frequent output will ensue after clearing for quite some time which will likely making putting on a replacement appliance difficult. Use stool thickening tactics (below). If going to an ER, bring your own otosmy gear and a change of clothes as hospital likely doesn't carry or doesn't know how.
[b]What is "pancaking?"[/b]
Pancaking occurs when a vacuum in the bag (likely do to a clogged filter) or super thick stool blocks stool from depositing to the bottom of the bag. Thus can force bag off and cause leaks. Controlling what one eats and by mixing and consuming stool thickening and stool softening foods at the same time to get a balance. Rinse the bag with a water bottle to remove material around stoma, do not try to push as that can cause a leak
[b]What is "ballooning?"
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Ballooning occurs when foods eaten produce too much gas and the filter gets clogged (likely due to laying down) and thus forces bag off and causes leaks.
These two conditions can cause premature bag replacement and leaks which burn the skin. It's better to replace the appliance if there is any continuous stinging pain, don't just live with it. Keep an eye on your otosmy supply and have ample reserves.
I've found that caffeine, in coffee, tea and even chocolate causes diarrhea and can assist in controlling flow so stool is more liquid..however coffee makes output very acidic making burns worse. Dried Chinese Crispy Noodles, Cheerios or applesauce (peeled apples) are the exact opposite, a stool thickening food. By mixing these with other foods one can manipulate their stool output and counter the issues above. Also the severe thickening helps in cases where one has severe diarrhea and unable to reattach a new bag due to high flow.
[b]Eating Guide
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Partially copied from my nutritionists guide. Ileostomy Nutrition Therapy from the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. (This handout may be duplicated for client education.)
My recommendation is to see a nutritionist for the full guide as not all can be pasted here
I've added my own observations to further clarify
Chew all foods well to the consistency of paste.
[b]Foods That May Cause Blockage (very bad avoid!)
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Apples, unpeeled (unpeeled and applesauce are excellent thickeners, don't eat the core, chew well)
Bean sprouts
Cabbage, raw
Casing on sausage (inside fine if no tough parts, avoid swallowing if a chunk is felt)
Celery (avoid)
Chinese vegetables (stir fried crunchy, too hard, need soft veggies with no skins)
Coconut
Coleslaw
Corn (grits also, corn anything doesn't seem to dissolve in stomach)
Cucumbers (skins bad, inside chewed up good seems okay, no seeds)
Dried fruit, raisins
Grapes
Green peppers (red, yellow also) pureed or very very small seems okay in small amounts
Mushrooms (doesn't dissolve in stomach) pureed or very very small seems okay in small amounts
Nuts (totally avoid)
Peas (mushy interior okay, like pea soup, skins a problem)
Pickles (skins a problem, inside if chewed up good seems okay, seeds not)
Pineapple (liquid okay, mushy parts fine, hard parts not, tricky)
Popcorn (totally avoid)
Relishes and olives
Salad greens (diarrhea nightmare too)
Seeds and nuts (avoid)
Spinach (doesn't digest, pureed perhaps)
Tough, fibrous meats (for
example, steak on grill, well done, tough parts especially)
Vegetable and fruit skins, (any avoid)
Whole grains (no grits, oatmeal seems to be okay, Cheerios is an excellent thickener)
[b]Foods That May Cause Gas or Odor
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Alcohol
Apples
Asparagus (stink)
Bananas
Beer
Broccoli (clog hazard)
Brussels sprouts (clog hazard)
Cabbage (clog hazard)
Carbonated beverages
Cauliflower
Cheese, some types
Corn (clog hazard)
Cucumber
Dairy products
Dried beans and peas (clog hazard)
Eggs (don't digest in stomach)
Fatty foods
Fish (cooked salmon in small portions may not, nor stink)
Grapes
Green pepper (red and yellow also, clog hazzard)
Melons
Onions (clog hazard)
Peanuts (clog hazard)
Prunes
Radishes
Turnips
Soda and sipping using straws, (drink from glass instead)
Seafood (oh God does it stink!)
If your having pancaking issues a small amount of something above (like having a soda during a meal) could introduce some air into your diet and thus into the bag. Also by avoiding too much thickening foods by themselves which often contribute to pancaking.
[b]Foods That May Help Relieve Gas and Odor[/b]
Buttermilk
Cranberry juice
Parsley
Yogurt with active cultures (Greek yogurt)
[b]Foods That May Cause Diarrhea (looser or more frequent stool)
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Alcohol (including beer)
Apricots (and stone fruits)
Beans, baked or legumes
Bran
Broccoli
Brussels sprouts
Cabbage
Caffeinated drinks
(especially hot)
Chocolate
Corn (in my experience corn anything doesn't digest in stomach, just passed through and out, kernels/popcorn will clog)
Fried meats, fish, poultry (KFC, supermarket rotisserie chicken very bad, anything soaked in brine)
Fruit juice: apple, grape, orange (small amount okay)
Fruit: fresh, canned, or dried (small amount okay)
Glucose-free foods containing mannitol or
sorbitol
Gum, sugar free
High-fat foods
High-sugar foods
High salt foods (KFC, supermarket rotisserie chicken)
High seasoned foods (blackened)
Licorice
Milk and dairy foods (small amounts okay)
Nuts or seeds (bad, clog hazard)
Peaches (stone fruit, one rarely okay)
Peas
Plums (stone fruit)
Prune juice or prunes
Soup
Spicy foods
Sugar-free substitutes
Tomatoes
Turnip greens/green leafy
vegetables, raw
Wheat/whole grains
Wine
Rice (1/4 cup in mixed in food okay), refried beans (1/4 cup okay) pasta (one cup max).
Any foods soaked in brine or fried (rotisserie chicken, Kentucky fried chicken etc)
[b]Foods That May Cause Diarrhea (looser or more frequent stool)
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Alcohol (including beer)
Apricots (and stone fruits)
Beans, baked or legumes
Bran
Broccoli
Brussels sprouts
Cabbage
Caffeinated drinks
(especially hot)
Chocolate
Corn (clog hazard, even grits, doesn't digest)
Fried meats, fish poultry
Fruit juice: apple, grape,
orange
Fruit: fresh, canned, or
dried
Glucose-free foods
containing mannitol or
sorbitol
Gum, sugar free
High-fat foods
High-sugar foods
High salty foods
Licorice
Milk and dairy foods
Nuts or seeds
Peaches (stone fruit)
Peas
Plums (stone fruit)
Prune juice or prunes
Soup
Spicy foods
Sugar-free substitutes
Tomatoes
Turnip greens/green leafy
vegetables, raw
Wheat/whole grains
Wine
Soylent nutritional drink
[b]Foods That May Help Thicken Stool
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Applesauce (unpeeled apples, no cores)
Bananas
Barley (when OK to have
fiber)
Cheese (cheese food may be a clog problem, use real cheese)
Dried Chinese Crispy Noodles (severe thickening, mix with other food that causes diarrhea)
Marshmallows
Oatmeal (when OK to have
fiber)
Pasta (sauces may increase
symptoms) (in my experience more than a cup of pasta causes diarrhea)
Peanut butter, creamy only, nuts clog (makes skin oily)
Potatoes, no skin (skin clogs, more than a cup causes diarrhea)
Pretzels (salty may cause more flow water consumption)
Metamucil, mix or crackers (mix in cup of water and drink before it gells up)
I'm adding to this list based upon experience.