Dear Ryder,
I didn't ride a roller coaster until 6 months after my reversal. Then I had a hernia operation. Following that, I finally had a MRSA infection in my stoma site diagnosed that took 3 months to heal and this weekend I'm heading back to Santa Cruz Boardwalk to ride The Giant Dipper! Whoop, whoop!
I want to respond to your question about leakages burning. I had an inverted stoma that I couldn't place the barrier around, so I was almost in constant contact with bowel leakage. If you get to it fast enough, there's not much skin damage. I had more problems with the adhesives ripping my skin and then the leaks burned terrifically. I often had to change my bag 3 times a day, and freshly applied adhesives adhere more. After a couple of days, the bag is much easier to remove.
I don't know how familiar you are with the appliances, but I suggest you look at one before you decide it's worth shortening your life over.
There are many kinds of ostomy bags to fit your needs. I would have found something that worked for me, and some fellow ostomates gave me advice on how to adapt one for my problem.
If I say this wrong, friends, please correct me, but as I understand it, your stoma will stick out some so that the ring in the appliance fits around it, then the adhesive sticks it to your skin snugly and provides a 'barrier' against leakages. It takes some trial and error, and of course, it's not foolproof.
I was told that during my emergency operation, my surgeon worked at making mine stick out but couldn't. I had stoma repair surgery after 4 months that didn't work either because of skin folds. My body kept trying to heal the stoma incision (I'm chunky now, but I had lost 100 lbs., so there's a lot of loose skin.)
If you review comments from other members, you'll see how many folks' quality of life improved dramatically after surgery, as well as many who've decided to opt out of reversal surgery because they are content with managing the bag. There are many folks here that have had appliances forever it seems.
For myself, when I finally regained consciousness after 5 days in ICU, I was thrilled to be alive, and I'd do it again if I have to. Thank goodness you found this site. We are with you all the way.
Charlotte