Hi Bud.
My name is Marsha, and I've had my ileostomy for more than 50 years, since I was a teen. I really liked what you had to say in your profile. I was very young when I had my surgery, but I accepted it readily, preferring the ostomy to the uncertainty of 4 years of ulcerative colitis. It allowed me to get back to real life, school, dating, activities....and then later, marriage, 2 babies... Little did I know then how many problems there could be with ostomies, and for the most part I had no serious maintenance issues in the first 45 years. I swam, biked, snorkeled, and did whatever I felt like doing........as long as I took my supplies along. Back in the dark ages, there were no stoma therapists/so people with ostomies helped other newbies. I did that for a few years. My ex also had an ileostomy, but his surgeon fashioned one that was about 4-6 inches long (almost like another penis) and it developed a bulging curve over time.. making it difficult to change... Perhaps he actually had a "prolapsed" stoma. Eventually, he had his redone (problem free) to about an inch (like mine) and that ended problems with changing... over time, (and two pregnancies) my stoma has pulled back in, so the bottom half is only about skin level.. That does cause more leaks now than I ever had in the last 50. But I've been advised to do the best I can, and as long as it continues to function, don't get involved in surgery.. I use Convatec Convex two-piece system, so changing is relatively simple. But I didn't avoid the hernia issues. I had a small incisional hernia for years.....but started getting larger... Now it looks like one side of my belly is "somewhat pregnant". Again, I was advised to leave it alone, as long as it's not bothering me... So that's the medical/surgical history..
I was married for 24 1/2 years.....and divorced more than 20 years ago.. Once single, I worked as a teacher, and managed to travel the world...... on discounted options affordable on a teacher's salary... I was born in Brooklyn, NY, but we moved to NJ to buy a house, and that's where I've remained. Although I've lived here in what once was rural NJ, over time it's become suburban. Gone are most of the fields and farms, trees. But I'm still only a 1/2 hour from "The Beach" or The "shore" as they say in NJ.. Can't get the city out of this gal as I still consider myself a transplanted New Yorker... I still have many interests (music, reading, theater, dining out, cooking....socializing with friends etc.), but my wings have been somewhat clipped and long-distance travel is not really an option.....for now, given COVID.. I have 2 grown sons, both married and raising kids of their own. My older son has a 10-year-old little girl and lives in the "wilds" of the Pocono Mountains, in PA, and my younger son met an Australian gal and moved to Australia (south of Brisbane). I have two Aussie grandsons, who are growing up so fast (8, 12 now); I've been to Oz 7 times, and had hoped to be able to continue to go yearly.......but life doesn't always give you what you want.. I'm grateful for FaceTime and Facebook... I think this is enough for now. Please write if you'd like. I'd love to hear from you. Marsha